The 8 Guests No Bride Needs

This week’s Blog post “The 8 Guests No Bride Needs” comes from Wedding UK, we love those English gals!


Because you can’t choose your family and you can’t help your friends, here’s how to minimize any nuptial negativity…

1.  The just-divorced

You’re not sure which was worse, the tears over the divorce documents or the new post break-up empowerment which is less heartbroken and more never-be-broken-again. Now you’re worried she’ll spend the day snickering at the vows and encouraging the rest of the congregation to leave their good-for-nothing husbands.

Michele Paradise says: “Recruit a mutual friend with an optimistic view of life who’ll encourage her to enjoy the celebrations. Your wedding will bring back memories, so ask one of the ushers to give her a little extra attention and distract her from her own emotions in a positive way.”


2.  The sexy singleton

She might be a little focused on the male side of life but she’s one of your closest allies. Still, there have been a couple of incidents which are making you question her bridesmaid motives; first she wanted to team the hen do with the stags, then she tried to organize a singles’ table at the reception, and now she’s questioning whether she can have the neckline of her dress altered. Oh my…

Michele says: “Give her a role which uses her social skills as a benefit, perhaps she could be the meet-and-greet bridesmaid? This way she gets to talk to all the single men without being obvious and embarrassing. But do take her off the hen do committee, pronto.”


3.  The playboy usher

You’ve had to console many a heartbroken girl he’s left behind in the past and now your young cousin is showing signs of a crush, saying he looks just like her favorite telly presenter, Dermot O’Leary. How are you going to keep your favorite females safe from his charms?

Michele says: “If you don’t tell people how you feel about their behavior, you can’t expect them to change. Gently warn him you have some younger family members who are slightly impressionable and point him in the direction of the older female guests who’ll be looking for a young man to dance with. Guide his charm towards those who won’t get hurt.”


4.  The scene-stealer

She’s your baby sister but from the second you asked her to be a bridesmaid she hasn’t made it easy. You told her to wear lavender and she insisted on salmon pink, you suggested knee-length and she opted for maxi. Now she wants to sing at the reception, which would be fine, if you weren’t so used to her stealing the limelight…

Michele says: “You need to be covert with her or you risk fueling the fire. Ask a friend to keep her in check, ensure the photographer doesn’t allow her to be center stage in the pictures and remember this is your day and you will be the star of the show.”


5.  The bride (smaid)

She’s the bridesmaid who wants to be the bride and since you announced your engagement she’s bombarded you with supplier contacts and favor ideas. Friends are calling her a ‘bridesmaid-zilla’ because she’s organised three hen dos, a bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner. Most recently she talked you into letting her wear a white dress – à la Pippa Middleton – and now you’re having visions of her saying ‘I do’ instead of you.

Michele says: “It’s important to stay positive, but also lay down the law. Thank her for her help but then calmly tell her you need to make key decisions alone with your groom. If she does try to stage-manage you on your big day, turn a deaf ear and keep smiling.”


6.  The professional flower girl

When your mother-in-law said you had to have her great-niece as your flower girl you thought it would be a nice touch. But then you discovered Amelia-Grace has been a flower girl five times already and has learnt a thing or two. She’s demanding to have her hair styled, refusing to wear the dress you bought for her and won’t sprinkle petals down the aisle because “that’s for babies…”

Michele says: “Start by bolstering her ego, telling her how much you’d love her to be part of the day and because she has been a flower girl before, only she will know how to carpet the aisle with petals. Narrow down the dress to a choice between two options, which she can make the final call on. She might be getting what she wants, but so will you.”


7.  The best joker

His best man has been a key witness to your relationship, through all of your highs and lows. But now he’s looking for speech fodder and teasing you about sharing some of the funnier moments in his speech – with video evidence for extra entertainment. While you’re left worrying it might be too much for your dear old man to hear.

Michele says: “Take him for a coffee and explain that although he’s seen the good, the bad and the ugly of your relationship, this wedding isn’t just about the two of you – it’s about your extended families coming together. There’s no guarantee he will listen. If he doesn’t, simply smile sweetly and let it roll over you on the day.”


8.  The groom’s best girl friend

It doesn’t help that she’s beautiful. But, looks aside, his childhood friend has never held back when it comes to laying claim on your man, from borrowing his jacket to squeezing her way into cozy pictures. So, how are you going to make sure this wedding is between the two – rather than three – of you?

Michele says: “Recruit an usher who can intercept her when she heading over to talk to your groom, ask the photographer to ensure she is moved away from him in the pictures and try your hardest not to notice.”

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